Lessons from Flowers
Every new year provides a time of reflection and intention setting for the next 365 days. It’s easy to compare ourselves and our accomplishments against others around us. So, I’d like to recommend a simple lesson from flowers, called oubaitori.
“A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms.” - Sensei Ogui
Oubaitori - A gentle reminder to not compare yourself to others.
You’re not a late bloomer.
You’re not missing out.
You’re not less than.
You’re right where you need to be.
“Comparison is the thief of joy” - Theodore Roosevelt
What does Oubaitori mean?
Pronounced “Oh-by-toh-ree”
It’s a Japanese idiom made of the kanji of 4 different flowering trees.
Each tree coexists with the others without any concern about when their neighbors are flowering.
Each tree blossoms on its own timeline and reveals its own beauty.
It translates that people, like flowers, blossom on their own time and in their own ways. Therefore, comparing oneself to others isn’t fruitful.
The Four Blossoms:
Ou: Cherry blossom - Represents mindfulness and living in the present.
Bai: Apricot blossom - Represents good health, endurance, and overcoming adversity.
To: Peach blossom - Represents longevity.
Ri: Plum blossom - Represents keeping away from illness.
“We won’t be distracted by comparison if we are captivated with purpose.” - Bob Goff
Remember this concept of oubaitori when you’re feeling stuck, behind, or frustrated.
Your season will come.
Keep growing.
Keep doing you.
